Between my good friend’s wedding in August and my own pending nuptuals in October, it’s all weddings all of the time at my house.
Matt and I started our wedding registry last weekend, and it went pretty well. The whole day was almost entirely without incident until it was time to select the flatware. Matt wanted to register for the $40 20-piece set at Target, while I thought that this was the opportunity for us to finally have some nice silverware (even if it isn’t actually silver). I found a set I liked at a department store for $35 for a five piece setting - when I looked at the price I was pleased to note that this was one of the least expensive options available. Score!
We went six rounds on the $35-a-set flatware.
Matt made an excellent point - you can just as easily get food to your mouth with a $2 fork as a $7 - but for that matter - we could keep eating off of the utensils we already have - the mismatched “set” that was the result of combining our households three years ago works just fine.
Matt said that he would be embarrassed to have someone buy him a “$7 spoon.” My rebuttal: “at least it’s not a $30 spoon, like this one over here.” And so it went.
The whole process has led me to wonder: just what is the purpose of a bridal registery? To set up house? If that’s the case - we’re already pretty set. We’ve been getting by with made-for-college-student cheapies and hand-me-downs for years. I don’t think there’s any law that says married people are required to have matching flatware.
I wish I were more evolved (or less broke) and willing to just register with my favorite non-profit organization and donate all wedding gifts to charity, but there are some things we’ve been putting off buying in anticipation of this moment. Plus, after years of gift-buying for others, I feel a bit of entitlement to this bridal rite-of-passage.
I know that new flatware and dishes and bedding won’t make our marriage any happier, but I do know that I’ve been putting off buying good cookware because I knew that this day is coming. We’re trying to live more simply, so we’re not registering for a bunch of crap - there are no candles or chotchkes on our registry - but there are a few things we’ve been wanting - stuff we would never buy ourselves. For example, I’ve been looking forward to getting an immersion blender and salad spinner for years - and Matt desperately wants a giant hammock and an accompanying stand.
But really, how much is too much? How much is enough?
Part of me really wanted to register for the Vera Wang china and the complete 15-piece All-Clad cookware - but that seemed excessive. I thought that the flatware seemed pretty reasonable.
So I ask the readers, what are your thoughts on bridal registries?Stumble it!