I haven’t been nearly as active here as I would like to be, and for that I apologize. I have been caught off-gaurd by the amount of time and energy it takes to pull one of these wedding things together. We’ve spent the last few weeks making lots of plans, and it looks like it’s going to be nothing but craziness right up until the blessed event (which is exactly two months from today - ack!).
My best friend was married last weekend and her celebration was fun and beautiful - and a reminder of just how much Matt and I still have to do. Outstanding deliverables include: reserve the rentals, create programs, choose readings, decide what we’re going to do about music during the ceremony, find a couple of bartenders - oh, the list goes on and on.
I’ve helped my friends and sisters plan weddings, and have been to countless others, so I should have anticipated the effort that goes into one. I am a planner in my professional life: I have planned everything from new product launches to formal fundraising dinners for 200 - I thought that a wedding would be a walk in the park compared to these.
Boy, was I wrong.
What I didn’t consider was that the events leading up to the wedding also require planning and orchestration. This isn’t just a simple ceremony - it’s a multi-day event.
Between the showers and bachelorette party, meetings with the officiant and a couple’s counselor, and appointments with the hairdresser and the caterer - it’s all I can do to keep my mind focused on work . It doesn’t help that my job has also been extremely demanding as of late (oh, and I’m teaching one night a week, too).
I don’t mean to complain - we recognize that we’re really fortunate to have so many family and friends who want to celebrate with us. But as the date approaches, it’s easy to see why people elope or do a simple town hall wedding with the justice of the peace.
I’m seriously beginning to wonder if it’s too late to hire an event planner.
A question for all of you ‘smug marrieds’ out there: what’s the one element of your wedding that could have been skipped, simplified, or shortened? At this point, I’m open to any suggestion that might reduce my stress level or bring clarity to the process. I’ve already started a spreadsheet checklist to organize the chaos in my brain. Do you have any other ideas?Stumble it!